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| MARGARITA |
| Posted on: January 21st, 2005, 1:05pm |
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Hello to everyone,
I am feeling quite concerned and need some opinion. I have been offered a job upon our arrival to ABQ. My husband will work as soon as we get there yet he wants to go to school to become a fireman. We are attachment parents and at this moment one good option is for me to go to work while he gets his schooling done. He is willing to work any job but I dont want him working at a gas station (with violence and all I am afraid). Our plan was for me to stay home like I am doing here while abroad but looks like the option of working is very real.. I am extremely unsure about leaving my daughter for 8 hrs everyday while I work.. she would be with my husband but still I have not been apart from her since her birth and the thought of it is killing me... 
Has any of you gone thru this type of situation? Do any of you moms work and homeschool? how does that work? Any opinion will be appreciated.
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| mkpwill |
| Posted on: January 21st, 2005, 2:08pm |
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Hi, I work full time and homeschool my 6th grader. It is not an easy thing to do. the main thing that saves me is that i get to work from my house 3 days a week and go into the office 2 days a week. My daughter is also very self motivated so I do not have to sit with her constantly. It is possible to do but it would help to have your husband also be willing to help out with it as much as possible.
Good Luck
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| MurphMom04 |
| Posted on: January 21st, 2005, 2:17pm |
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Now that we are on the subject!! I am also torn right now because I have an appointment to start my nursing clinicals in August. I have spoken to the director who told me that school would only be 4 days a week and 1/4 to 1/2 days. So not an 8-5 thing by any means.
I am currently homeschooling my 2nd grader and have tenatively hired a lady to come into my home to watch my kids while I am at school.
Do you think it is still possible to homeschool while I am in school??
To the OP: I think that if your husband and you have the same parenting values, then why not give it a try and see how it works. You might be pleasantly surprised to learn that it works out great. Good luck and... I didn't mean to hijack your post!!!
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| dallin2001 |
| Posted on: January 21st, 2005, 3:36pm |
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When you use the term attachment parents, what do you mean? In the world of child welfare, that would mean that you are parenting children with attachment issues. Is that correct? If that is the case, the answers to your questions would be very different than if you are dealing with emotionally healthy children. I am parenting three children with attachment issues, and there is no way they would make any emotional head way, or even just maintain the current growth, if they had a father working and going to school at the same time (as our children do), and me working on top of that.
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| hovlex |
| Posted on: January 21st, 2005, 3:49pm |
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Margarita,
I wondered from your post if your working situation was going to be temporary, just until your husband is out of school and gets a job as a firefighter? If that is the case, I would say there is no harm in trying it, as long as your husband is willing. After all, once he is done your kids will have you back, have a dad that is around more often than many kids have (assuming he gets that fireman schedule I have heard about, with 3 or 4 pretty long days, but the other days off), and they will probably have developed a much deeper relationship with him during all their time together!
If it is permanent, I guess it's harder to say. I have some friends with the situation that the mom works most days, the dad homeschools during the day and works many nights. It seems to work for them, but the kids do talk about missing their mom on occasion. I could see how it wouldn't work for everyone on a permanent basis!
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| Admin |
| Posted on: January 21st, 2005, 9:26pm |
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Margarita, I don't have any advice to offer, except to say follow your heart. You can always try it out for a while to see how it works. You'll know if it isn't working. Easy to say, harder to try, I know.
Kari, I'm not sure what Margarita intended when she mentioned attachment parenting, but my own understanding of it is that it's a style of parenting following the attachment model described by Dr. Sears and others in parenting advice books. It's the style of parenting I follow, and basically it recommends family bed/cosleeping, child wearing (sling), extended breastfeeding, never leaving babies to cry it out, etc. I'm not wanting to get into a parenting discussion, just thought I'd clarify if that's what Margarita might have meant.
Amy, I've never tried to work and homeschool, so I can't offer specific advice. But I just wanted to say that several of the homeschooling books I've read (you know, those big "Intro to homeschooling" type books you can get at the bookstore) mention homeschooling while working. I don't remember what advice they offered, but I remember them being quite encouraging, even for fairly young kids. You might want to see if you can find a book that deals with the subject. Good luck! |
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| sarahmomgolden |
| Posted on: January 22nd, 2005, 12:54am |
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I haven't actually worked while homeschooling my children. When I worked I worked the opposite shift of my husband so that we were the ones providing all the care for our children, and I taught them (pre-school stuff) as it came up when I was home. I believe it can be accomplished if you want it to be. (we also practice attachment parenting)
I just wanted to 'share' what little I know about the fire department. In no way is this meant to sound negative or anything like that, but just purely sharing our own experience with this. Hopefully I won't be attacked again for being honest...... My husband is a AZ state certified fire fighter (complete training and certified), was an EMT, and is a class short of having a fire science degree. His father was also captain of a fire dept in AZ. So you would think he would have been able to walk in there and have the job handed to him. However, the truth is getting onto the fire department is extremely difficult. There are many (among thousands) of applicants who are slowly weeded down through the hiring process (written test, physical test, oral interviews, etc.). This is a very stressful, frustrating, and difficult process. Many who have all the qualifications still never make it into the department.
The only reason I am even sharing this is because you said you may need to work temporarily while your husband finishes school, which I honestly believe is wonderful. But as someone who has BTDT it *may* take longer and be more difficult than you anticipated. And may be the difference in the job you accept for now, and the choices you make for the time being (which can make a HUGE difference in the long run). We thought getting the job would be a done deal, and have known many who thought the same exact thing. Often during a hiring year out of the list of 10-15 candiates (who make it onto the list) only 2 or 3 are actually hired from the list. My husband has made it on the list every time he applied, and still never got a position.
Again I am ONLY sharing our own experience, which may help you during this difficult decision. I wish you the best of luck! 
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| MARGARITA |
| Posted on: January 22nd, 2005, 2:36am |
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Ladies I am so excited to receive so many replies!!! You all are wonderful and thanks for your views. Yes, Attachements parenting is extended breastfeeding (which by the way we still so) our daughter is 20 months old, baby slinging, no crying, family sleeps together, etc. We practice attachement parenting so we are always careful about our decisions for the benefit of all of us but especially of our baby. This is the reason I was feeling so much anguish last night.. I prayed about it and woke up feeling better as I believe God will prepare the path for us to do what is best.
Murphmom no worries I am glad that my question sort of related to yours and you were ble to ask, thats what we are all here for, to help one another right?
I thank you deeply for sharing your ideas and suggestions and I will stay in touch.
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