Hi all, My name is Amy. I have an 11 year old in 5th grade (who doesn't seem to mind ps at all) and a 7 year old daughter in 2nd grade who has just started ps after two years in homeschool and HATES IT!! I placed them in school with the intention of either going to work or going to school myself. I am now going to be starting Nursing School again (which is pretty much part time) and she is asking to leave ps.. she doens't really have any good friends, has been picked on and just simply does not like going down there for 7 hours a day. I have an 18 year old daughter who will be home with my youngest who is 4 during the few hours I'm at school myself. So I'm asking for some honest advice here. Do you think I would be shooting myself in the foot by taking her out of ps and homeschooling again while I am also going to school? I really hate sending her but hate to give up this opportunity for myself too. I'm really at a loss. Althought I LOVED homeschooling, miss it and loved the families we were able to interact with. We just moved here about 7 weeks ago and are very lonely. Don't really know anyone and my kids haven't really had any opportunity to play with any other kids besides at school. We are in Ventana Ranch. Thanks in advance for any/all advice or opinions. Amy
As someone who just graduated from nursing school I'd say finish your education then if she still doesn't like her school pull her out. In this time of economic uncertainty education is very importnant. You can always plan playdates for her with her school friends on the weekend. I'm not sure what nursing program you are going through but it can be mentally and physically exhausting especially when you begin clinicals. Once you graduate you will have much more flexibility with your time. Sometimes with nursing clinicals you may have to work odd hours like nights or weekends or split shifts depending when preceptors are available. But thats just my two cents worth. Follow what you believe to be the right decision for your family. Good luck.
HI Amy - I would encourage you with the support you will have at home to homeschool! I have recently gone back to work after the luxury of homeschooling and being at home for 11 years. My senior is on his own this year taking college classes, but my 12 year old is still at home. I work shifts so we can balance the load. My daughter will not hear of going to PS ( tried it once in 1st grade) and if you been there, done it - you know how special it is to be able to homeschool, especially if she is asking to and not happy in her school environment. It is so much more than just academics. Good luck on your choice. Carol
My little two cents, if you already have a younger child at home, I would probably bring whoever else wants to be home as well. I also have an older daughter that loves being able to take her siblings on outings and field trips, there are programs online that would help if she enjoys that type of learning and takes little teacher prep allowing you more time for studies. Also, in the mean time you could apply to charter and alternative schools that usually have a smaller class and in some cases more involved parents....... you could always start fresh next fall in a new school after giving her a break for the remainder of the year. It's all a journey and you can do whats right for you and your children and change paths whenever your family needs!~
There are a bunch of us that live near you, that frequent the Taylor ranch library park for West side park days on Tuesdays ( however we have been trying to meet at mcdonalds on golf course and paseo due to the weather....... Best wishes Tina
It sounds like homeschooling her would be no problem. I agree that if you already have a little one at home, she might as well be there, too. I have been homeschooling for going on 20 years and what I always tell people is that when you are talking about young kids, it really does not take very much time each day to give them everything they are getting in school. Your 18yo could certainly take care of part of it and you can do some when you are at home. Kids that age are learning mostly by experiences so if she is being read to a lot, and helping with stuff like cooking, she is getting plenty. An hour or so out of workbooks is plenty. At that age I would focus almost exclusively on math and reading. Science, geography, etc will come through life experiences. Provide lots of books from the library on lots of subjects, watch an educational program together, go on field trips, etc. Five in a Row (you can google it) is a simple curriculum to use to make sure you are hitting a wide variety of subjects. It is inexpensive (if you use the library you get the manual for about $25) and your 18yo could easily do it with her. You read picture books and then discuss various topics or do little projects and automatically cover geography, art, science, literature, some math etc) If you are not familiar with it, I can tell you more.
Also, the 7yo will help keep the 4yo entertained even when you are home, so you can study. I have found that when siblings are around, my kids are less demanding of my attention.
Thanks everybody for the great advice. I have talked to my kids alot and it seems like my 11 y/o wants to stay in PS. Would it be strange to HS two and have one go to PS? I am considering very seriously homeschooling my 4 yr old who would start kinder next year also. My daughter is very excited about the idea of being homeschooled again and really wants to meet other girls her age and connect with some girls that have the same interests. (She loves dolls, barbies, playing "school" and "house" and other girly-girl type stuff) Rebecca my husband and I both looked over the five in a row website and it looks very intriguing. I would love to know more about it from someone who has used it. We have always used ABEKA but my husband thinks its too much and is more geared toward a full day of work. He likes the idea of what fiar seems to offer as far as flow.
We used Five in a Row for a good few years and loved it, so much to expand out on if you want to. Horizon math was a good choice for us too in those younger years, although Teaching Textbooks has worked for us for the higher grades. A site that I like to reference is http://homeschoolreviews.com/ - sometimes helps to know what others liked about a curriculum - remembering that each child's learning style is different.
Amy I got my manuals off of ebay, but they are inexpensive enough that you could just buy them off the FIAR site. I would just start with volume 1. Most of the books can be borrowed from the library or bought second hand. A few are difficult to find or expensive but you can just skip those. Purple House Press is now printing some of the out of print books. Join the forums at FIAR, they are a ton of help. You can print materials for free that follow the curriculum at Home School Share. We have really gotten into doing the lapbooks. The only other things that I would really recommend to go along with it, other than a math program, is a world map. Pretty much everything else you can access over the internet.
As far as math, I am sure there are a lot of good programs out there. At that young age I have always just used workbooks that you can buy at places like Sam's, Costco or Learning is Fun. Basic math is basic math. The thing I like about the workbooks is that in addition to being inexpensive, they are very kid friendly, with colorful pages and simple instructions. And I like that I can throw them away when they are done!!! I have found that using shorter workbooks has an advantage in that I have an incentive program where the kids can pick a prize out of a prize box after they complete a workbook and that gets them very motivated to whiz through them. I have a similar program that I use where they get a prize after they read a certain number of age-appropriate books to themselves. Then they read a lot on their own.
BTW, I am fairly new to FIAR and I have been using it with all three of the kids that I currently HS; 6,8,12. I have found that the older kids get lots out of it and you can adjust it to the ages by just going into greater depth. I have found my 14 & 16 sometimes listening in. All of my kids have always loved a good book, regardless of the type. I am confident that you could include your 4 in most of the activities.
I have always put together my own curriculum, mostly from workbooks and some used text books at higher grade levels. I have used Saxon Math. I have never bought a program since I started HS in 1990.
The thing I like about FIAR is that it encompasses what I think is the best of home schooling. It links various subjects in a way that connects them in the child's brain and makes them relevant; especially "dry" subjects like geography and social studies.
Unfortunately, I live on the other side of Albuquerque from you. I have been thinking it would be fun to do a FIAR coop. Feel free to ask any questions you might have. I'll answer them if I can.
BTW, they have a set of 3 laminated maps at Costco, (world, US and flags of the world) for $20. That's a great deal. I have also seen laminated maps at Borders. I get coupon thru email all the time. If you sign up with them you could use one of those to get 20 percent off a map at Borders. I go my map at Learning is Fun because I wanted one that looked old. You can get coupons every month if you sign up on their mailing list. I got it laminated at APS delites (the public school graphics store) Which btw, is a great resource for all kinds of things like laminating, die cuts, papers, supplies, etc.
I have to agree that some of the boxed curriculum's are meant to fill a school day since they are ultimately developed for private schools. We used FIAR when my kids were little, then sonlight seemed like a nice transition, it is literature based. Oak meadow is also a nice program, a couple other resources to find materials are rocksolidinc.com and vegsource.com for used materials. We are using and are really enjoying time4learning my boys have been diagnosed with some learning issues and they seem to be taking to the game style of learning. My 12 year old is also enjoying it because itis self paced and requires very little teacher prep. They have a money back free two week trial and we love that there is nothing to download. The kids can login anywhere we can get a connection on our lap top which makes it really great for traveling, we have tried several computer based programs, and for my visual hands on learners this program is what we have been looking for. Hope things go smoothly and work out well for your family........the westide park group meets either at the Taylor ranch Library park or mcdonalds on Paseo and golf course depending on the weather, on Tuesdays a 1 Tina